Create Your Own Happiness

How can we create our own happiness? People sometimes walk around so unhappy with themselves and what they do with their lives. I have been doing some reading and research and came up with five little ways to start finding happiness in your life.

1. Find meaning in your work.

We spend several hours working everyday yet we filled unfulfilled by these hours. To change this we must focus on how to make a difference and make sure our interactions with our co-works are meaningful. Many people are not passionate about what they do for work but only view it as a means of income.

Studies have shown“contributing to the health of patients and the smooth functioning of the hospital” — were happier than hospital workers who performed the very same tasks but didn’t see meaning. According to Ben-Shahar, there’s been similar findings with engineers, restaurant workers and hairdressers.

Therefore enjoy what you do choose the professions that interest you the most and you feel excited about, sometimes this may not start of with a great income but can build over time and at the end of the day makes you feel more fulfilled and happy.

2. Be positive.

Choose to find the positive out of a situation instead of the negative. As humans we tend to dwell on the negative aspects of situations and life. Even in a messed up situation looking for the positive aspect no matter how small can really help in your happy bank.

3. Use “pleasure boosters” in your day.

Taking some time to meditate for a few minutes on something that is positive. This can lift your mood and help you feel happier and energised and generally more creative. Some good “pleasure boosters” include closing your eyes listening to a Classical Music for 5 minutes, picturing the person your love, reading an uplifting piece of material, imagining a serene place that you might be planning to go on vacation. 

4. Embrace silence.

We are constantly moving in our day filling every moment with sound and business that we fail to take time off in silence. Silence can help us be more at one with our environment, find focus within ourselves and helps us be more creative. Find a way to embrace a little silence everyday.

5. Don’t dwell in difficult situations…See the challenge.

View difficult situations as challenges and opportunity rather than getting stressed out over difficult situations. Viewing challenges make us energized to find solutions and be creative in finding the solutions.
6. Work on more than one project at a time. At least three.

When we work on only one project and it does not turn out how we planned, it can cause us to become an emotional wreck. Our self-esteem would take a beating because things did not turn out how we planned. Working on more than one project really helps with keeping our emotions and self-esteem positive because if one fails there are others that are going well to make us still feel like we are doing a good job. A good way of doing this is by maintaining a hobby or doing something that you are passionate about along with other things going on in one’s life. 

Do You Have High Self-Esteem Or Low Self-Esteem?

Over the course of the last week or so I came across this list that actually describes behaviour that indicates high and low self-esteem. Take a look and see where you might fall.

People with High Self-Esteem

1. Take responsibility for their action own feelings and behaviour; avoid blaming and excuses.

2. Take compliments graciously.

3. Listen to criticisms without anger or defensiveness.

4. Give praise and compliments frequently.

5. Take good care of selves physically; avoid self destructive behaviour.

6. Accept those things that can’t be changed; age, body type, height, etc.

7. Make decisions internally from own set of values.

8. Take emotional risks; are willing to fail or look foolish.

9. Assume they are likable and pleasant to be around.

10. Have a good sense of humor; delight in irony and humor that doesn’t make fun of people or their pain.

11. Are happy about the accomplishments of others; give encouragement and confidence to others.

12. Reach out to others and make contacts.

13. Accept mistakes as part of living; try again or try something new.

14. Listen openly to the feelings, thoughts and ideas of others.

15. Accept and give sexual and sexual pleasure.

16. Are attractive to and nourished by cooperative positive people.

17. Focus on the here and now and concentrate on those things that can be controlled

People with Low Self-Esteem

1. Blame others; attribute their emotions to others.

2. Deny compliments, act suspicious of them, feel manipulated by them.

3. Criticize and pass judgment.

4. Withhold appreciation and compliments.

5. Allow self-destructive behaviour to continue.

6. Complain and apologize about things that can’t be changed.

7. Mold to external pressures; needs constant assurance.

8. Needs situations to be safe and predictable; want to always look good and be right.

9. Assume they are liked and imagine that others secretly criticize them.

10. Are amused by humor that makes others look ridiculous.

11. Look for failure in others; call attention to others failures; predict gloom.

12. Wait for others to approach; blame others for being unfriendly.

13. Expect or demand perfection in self and others.

14. Argue. Preach, nag, and criticize.

15. Without pleasure from self and others.

16. Chose toxic, hurtful relationships.

17. Are disabled by guilt, remorse regret and worry.